Do I need to prepare?
No. First we’ll have you and your spouse tell us what the basic facts and the issues are, then we’ll see what homework needs to be done, if any.

How do I get my spouse to come to mediation?
Let us discuss the mediation process with you first, so you’ll know how to approach your spouse. If you’re not comfortable discussing mediation with your spouse or you two have discussed it and your spouse isn’t interested, then let us know and we’ll do the convincing. We often find reluctance to any idea the other spouse has. We’re used to talking people into giving it a try for at least one session. We take this part of our job very seriously and our professional mediators become involved right from the beginning when setting up the first session is a problem.

If I’m not comfortable with or knowledgeable about the math, such as my budget, the assets, liabilities, values, pensions, etc, where will I get help?
Our professional lawyer-mediators know all about the law and finances. We have lists of accountants, financial planners and lawyers when help is needed. A successful resolution comes from having all the facts out on the table, including financial details.

Don’t I need a list of assets and liabilities and a budget?
Yes, but not necessarily at the first session. We’ll start by discussing what brings each of you to mediation and what you each see as the facts the mediator needs to know. Next we’ll agree to the issues that need to be resolved. Then by creating a list of assets and liabilities together at the first session, we begin a comfortable, working relationship that can carry through to a successful resolution to all the issues. Then the budget can be homework for the next session.

How long does it usually take?
It varies. If you two have already reached basic agreement and the mediator’s job is to help you put it in writing, one session may be enough. Our lawyer-mediators can then draft a legal, binding custody and property settlement (separation) agreement for you. Typically, in order to see that all the facts and financial details are fully presented and discussed so that both sides understand what has been agreed to and why they’re agreed to it, expect to spend on average between 2 to 4 sessions. We’ll let you two set a comfortable pace, but we’ll keep you focused and moving forward.

What does it cost?
Call to get our current hourly rate. We use only experienced, trained professional, lawyer-mediators who are available to meet with you on your schedule in our offices. Only lawyers (including lawyer-mediators) can draft, as a binding contract, any agreement you may reach. You get 2 for the price of 1. Our job is to help you do it right, the first time, and avoid the higher legal fees and many hours you will otherwise spend in negotiations and in court.