Books on Appropriate Dispute Resolution
Managing Differences
Describes “self mediation,” a 4-step method for mom and dad to talk about and resolve their differences issue by issue, without 3rd party help.
Dana, Daniel, PhD. Managing Differences. 3rd edition, MTI Publications, 2001
Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce
All Nolo guidebooks offer good advice.
Doskow, Emily. Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce. Nolo Press, 2010
Lawyering with Planned Early Negotiation
Recommend this book to your lawyer, since it describes a process conducive to early negotiation and settlement as a way to avoid needless lawsuits and trials.
Lande, John. Lawyering with Planned Early Negotiation. American Bar Association, 2011
The New Lawyer
Macfarlane, Julie. The New Lawyer: How Settlement Is Transforming The Practice Of Law. UBC Press, 2008
The Mediation Process
Moore, Christopher W. The Mediation Process: Practical Strategies for Resolving Conflict, 4th Ed., Jossey-Bass, 2014
Make Any Divorce Better!
Sherman, Ed. Make Any Divorce Better! Nolo Press, 2008 (good overall guidance including how to use lawyers)
Divorce Without Court
All Nolo guidebooks offer good advice.
Stoner, Katherine. Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation & Collaborative Divorce. Nolo Press, 2012
Dare to Forgive.
Hallowell, Edward M., MD. Dare to Forgive. Health Communications, Inc., 2004
Collaborative Divorce
The Collaborative Process is a great process, but it is almost as expensive as litigation. Virginia Mediation offers a far less expensive process, Counseled Mediation™, which incorporates collaborative divorce process benefits, and, unlike the collaborative process, doesn’t prevent your attorney from representing you in court.
Tessler, Pauline H., JD & Thompson, Peggy, PhD. Collaborative Divorce. Regent Books, an imprint of Harper Collins Publishers, 2006.